Pull up a chair and hear my tale of terror

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Join me this morning with your cup of tea or coffee as I tell you of my traumatic experience of hitting a mental blank and not knowing where I was. Firstly, know that I am in my peri menopausal state and hence the immense brain fogs that hit me every now and then. Those ladies who are going through what I am will know exactly what I am talking about.  Secondly, know that I only like to travel on routes that I am well adversed in as I get terrible panic attacks if I find myself in unknown territory. And thirdly, I have only been living here for the last 4 years and do not know the area that well and it has many, many roads that lead nowhere, so to speak. Normal roads all lead to a main road but definitely not up here.

So this morning I was en route to pick up my boyfriend’s son to drop him off at his friend. Normally, I am fine with it as I know the route off by heart. But my boyfriend is at the moment down and out with fevers (hence why I was being the taxi driver today) so my mind was on him. Now the road I was travelling on has 2 turnoffs that I normally take, one for the school and the other for his son’s house. So I am on auto pilot as my mind is not totally focused on where I am driving as I was worried over my boyfriend and I turned off towards the school. So, I then decided to turn off into one of the side roads thinking it would lead back towards the main road (first mistake…) but nope it sure as heck did not. I turned left, I turned right and so on looking for a road name that I know. But my mind had hit a total blank and for the life of me I could not even remember the street name of where I had to go.

Blank…..total Blankness!!!!!!

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I eventually found myself on some road leading to another suburb! I had even gone into the wrong direction!! Then the panic set in and I felt like crying, I had no cooking clue where I was and the terror of being lost hit me. That was mistake no 2……. I was ready to pull off the road and weep like a baby. Thank goodness I forced myself to be calm and focus on looking for something familiar….. At last a street name I knew. Finally I was back into the main stream and I found the school I knew and back onto the main road. Gosh, did I get a stress headache from that.

Needless to say my bf’s son burst into laughter at my dilemma. Why didn’t I phone my boyfriend you ask? I did but his phone was on silent as he was sleeping…….

Moral of the story: Do not let your mind wander on other things while driving especially during menopause and when you suffer from bad brain fog!!


Captain, my Captain

via Daily Prompt: Study

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On social media people often post that “Do you have any regrets?” and to comment below on what they are. Or “What would you change if you could?” In the beginning I would actually speculate on what I would change if I could. I would think of all the “regrets” that I could muster up. Things that I could change, different conversations, people that I would rather have avoided till I really got to thinking about it. To actually sit back and study the past and all it had to give.

Yes, it would have been nice to have rather gone backpacking after school across Europe instead of getting involved and marrying so young. Yes, if I had paid more attention to myself instead of immersing myself into bringing up my children I may have been in a different place today. So many things to change but then, if I could change them, I would not have had all those amazing life lessons. Yes amazing even if they did not seem so at the time. One can truly look back and see the truth in them.

If I had not married early in life I would not have had my kids and seen them grow up into amazing young men. I would not see them become such family orientated young men if I had not been so immersed in their upbringing. I must have done something right there. I would not have learnt how to be the person I am today. To see the growth in myself as a result of all those “regrets” and “things I could change”. Given some of those I could do without but then would I have become the strong person I am today?

So, to me, I can now seriously admit, there is actually nothing I would want to change of my past. My past is what defines me, made me who I am today. I am who I am now as a direct result of all the bad that I went through.

A true saying indeed…. “I am the Captain of my own destiny”.  Or as Frankie sang…..”I did it my way!”study

Think Happy Thoughts

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You may not have had a good start in life but you can sure make it end well.
Don’t let your circumstances define you.
Laugh on purpose.
Be around people with a sense of humour.
Be Joyous.
Worry never solved anything.
We all need a sense of humour.
Calm down and cheer up.
You will have tribulations in your life but cheer up as worrying over them won’t make it better.
Laugh at yourself.
When your mood sinks then take time to talk to yourself and look at your blessings in your life.
If you make enough “noise” you can “scare” away your depression.
Enjoy the life that was given to you.
Let the joy inside you be greater than the sadness inside you.
Live your life abundantly.
God knitted you together in your Mother’s Womb and He does not make junk…. He made you in His perfect image.
It is your soul that counts not the flesh of your body.
A beautiful Soul makes a Beautiful person.

Complaint fasting

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How many of us really take note of all the complaining that we do every day, every hour, and every minute of the day.

We complain about the weather….. It is either too hot or too cold, too wet or too dry. We complain about the economy, about our children, about our fellow neighbours, the car is too dirty, tired of cleaning the house, after the children, after the pets…… The list can go on and on and on.

We even complain about ourselves….. We are to fat, too thin, to old, to young, to grey, to stupid, to eager….. Etc.

Maybe you should do a complaint fasting….. You know, when you feel a complaint edging towards your mouth or thought put a halt to it. Stop the complaints and rather try and turn the complaint into a blessing or a turnabout…. Turn the complaint into something good instead.

Try to find the good instead of the negative. Try it for a week and see what happens in your life. You will find yourself more positive, smiling more and generally you will have a more “feel good” experience of life.

As the old saying goes…….Life is too short. Less complaining is good, more positive vibes need to go out into the Universe. Let it bounce off you onto the next person….. Cause a ripple effect into the world around you.

So I am laying down a challenge to you out there, especially to the avid complainers……… Try the complaint fasting for a week and let me know how it went.

I am going to do it…….

A gift called Life

A gift called Life

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As we get older we tend to be a tad more philosophical I think. Well, I seem to be, anyway. I tend to look back at my life and see how the threads of all the trials and tribulations, all the meetings and events seems to all collide at a central end point. All the lessons learnt through it all. All the wisdom that I can depart onto my children and to those who want to listen and learn by my mistakes and take the shortcut through theirs.

Life is about the messy bits in life. I like to think that life would be extremely boring and bland if we didn’t have it.

Would I change anything in my life? Maybe just one or two things but on the whole I would not change anything. I wouldn’t be the person I am today. I wouldn’t have all the knowledge, wisdom and empathy that I have now.

Life is exciting with all its knocks. To look back and see the reason behind all the trials and tribulations is amazing. Not nice to go through it at the time but it makes us stronger should we allow it to.

I start each day with a “thank you” to our Creator for allowing me another day.

Life is a blessing, a gift and we must never forget it.

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Woman! (for Woman’s Month)

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In the beginning God made woman from man, He took a part of the man’s rib and fashioned her and saw that it was good.

Man is made up of pure logic and physical strength, he was made to be the provider, the protector of the woman, the protector of Life.

Now a woman is made up of the pure emotion side of life, she is a complex person, she is the one who has so many roles in life. She is a nurturer of life, she is the protector of life, she is also a provider of life, she is the comforter, the nurse, the educator and so much more.

She will always put those she loves first in her life.

She is full of wonder and light.

She is a mystery to Man.

She is Life.

A woman's heart is a deep ocean of secrets. - Gloria Stuart

Chances of Success


You only have one life.

Do you want to live it true to yourself?

“I won’t” – 0%

“I can’t” – 10%

“I don’t know how” – 20%

“I wish I could” – 30%

“I want to” – 40%

“I think I might” – 50%

“I might” – 60%

“I think I can” – 70%

“I can” – 80%

“I am” – 90%

“I DID” – 100%

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